base showOnlyFailingIfMoreElementsThan on expected elements

[robstoll]

Platform (all, jvm, js): all
Extension (none, kotlin 1.3): none

Code related feature

in v0.17.0 we have added the report option showOnlyFailingIfMoreElementsThan for toContain.inOrder.onl
Currently, the default behaviour showOnlyFailingIfMoreElementsThan(10) is based on the number of elements in the IterableLike. It is likely that the number of expected elements is more or less the same as the actual number but it does not need to be. It would be better if we rename it to showOnlyFailingIfMoreExpectedElementsThan (deprecate the current and remove in 0.19.0).

This goes hand in hand with #1100 and should be addressed also for #1094